Bullying in the school, who is wrong?

By: Novita Devi Kristianti

Bullying is behavior such as threaten, oppress, and making other people feel uncomfortable. It is one of the phenomenon in education. According to Nadiem (minister of education and culture), bullying is one of the sins in education. There are radicalism, sexual violence, and bullying. We cannot give tolerate them. However, what does it make a lot of cases in Indonesia’s education? It is many factors from intrinsic and extrinsic.  We will discuss some of them. 

Many couples in Indonesia, are not ready mentally especially married couples at a young age. It gives an impact when they have children. Parent’s attitude that reflects unpreparedness such as lack of affection, attention, and how they educate. It recorded in the child's memory. So, we should more prepare when we decided to marry. 

Technology also gives an impact on them. In the era millennial, this era is very different from our era. We can see students in elementary school that know handphones, android, internet, games, social media, and so on. Moreover, their parents give handphone at a young age as a facility for their children. It is not wrong but we must control it. On the internet, a lot of information can negative or positive. Do not let them imitate the negative things from their internet.

It is not the role of parents but also a school, government, and society. Moreover, bullying cases usually occur in school. The school has an important aspect to avoid the cases. Initially this case from joke until violence between students. Some schools regard them as just conflicts or jokes. Neglecting makes the children free to bully. Needing coordination and effort to solve the cases in their school. This is the same as the government and society. Watching each other and enforcing norms is one of the ways to prevent bullying.

So, what we can do to avoid bullying. Many ways to do that. Giving affection for the child, as a teacher gives examples of empathy in teaching. Teaching them to learn martial sport and for school, they can make “programs stop bullying” such as:

1. Giving explanation that feeling safe is right for all people

2. Making the students more express (remember; the key to solving bullying problems is to express problems to people who are more mature, competent or trusted by our students)

3. Forming circles that they can trust. So, we have to coordinate with each other to solve and avoid it.

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